Lily Temperley reveals her real-life Fifty Shades Of Grey event in Sex, Lies …
December 11, 2014 - Fifty Shades of Grey
- Lily Temperley from London embarked on event with absolute married man
- He lavished her with costly holidays, engineer garments and Champagne
- But attribute shortly became controlling, with Lily neat for orgies
- He would foreordain her clothes, hair and even a shade of her spike varnish
Caroline Mcguire for MailOnline
Lily Temperley worked during a vital bank in London. She has now created a book about her exploits with a determining married male underneath a nom de plume
A multi-millionaire businessman starts a determining adore event with a lady several years his junior, drifting her divided to costly destinations and picking out pleasing garments for her to wear.
But with a perks come a final in a bedroom, a requests to indulge in passionate activities that would differently have left unexperienced.
It’s a story that we are familiar in now; Anastasia Steele meets Christian Grey and a wide-eyed immature lady starts an sparkling intrigue with a successful yet dangerous businessman.
But this isn’t Fifty Shades Of Grey. This is a real-life story of a lady from London regulating a nom de plume Lily Temperley.
Lily is a pleasing immature city workman who was sucked into a determining event with a high-flying, highly-sexed banking executive who commanded how she looked and behaved.
The usually large disproportion between this story and E.L James’s illusory criticism is that Lily’s Mr Grey was married.
But while Anastasia finished adult marrying her lover, Lily gave adult her well-paid pursuit and left a contention after her partner’s determining poise valid too much.
Much like Anastasia, Lily was a immature lady assured by a energy and success of her partner, who we will call Patrick Harrington.
He was a big-shot in a universe of banking, where additional and brag were pivotal players, and a energy was intoxicating.
Scroll down for video
Lily worked in financial in a behind bureau of one of a UK’s biggest banks, where high-rolling traders spent tens of thousands of pounds on intemperate dinners and were given bonuses in a millions.
Patrick was one of a comparison executives during a company; he had a repute as a ladies’ man, a tip building bureau and an responsibility criticism that ran into hundreds of thousands.
Lily and Patrick (fake name) had a intrigue was unequivocally identical to a attribute between Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey in Fifty Shades Of Grey (pictured)
Lily wasn’t alone in descending for Patrick – in a City environment, a heady brew of prolonged hours, large income and bureau danger mostly leads to affairs.
She told MailOnline: ‘Infidelity was rife. we don’t know if a wives during home knew of it or were usually blissfully unaware.
‘I’d go out with organisation from a bureau to a bar and see them slipping their marriage ring in their slot as they walked inside.
‘It was roughly like an tacit law in some ways. There were a high-rolling organisation who would buy Champagne for a certain set of women, meaningful that was adequate to pledge them something during a finish of a night.
‘Or they would fly an partner or director divided with them on a business outing with expectancy that nonetheless they had a mother during home, they would be a partner for a week.
‘When an all-expenses-paid outing to New York presents itself to someone who has never been initial category or slept in five-star hotels, they do get assured by it.’
Lily worked in financial in a behind bureau of one of a UK’s biggest banks, where high-rolling traders spent tens of thousands of pounds on intemperate dishes (picture acted by models)
It was during one of these alcohol-fuelled meetings in a bar nearby work that Lily initial fell for a attracts of comparison executive Harrington.
A low-maintenance lady from a countryside, Lily had never illusory she would be one of a women simply bought with costly Champagne and element gifts.
She said: ‘I always suspicion that he was one of those aged charmers – he spoke unequivocally good and was had a repute as a ladies’ man.
‘But it wasn’t until we were in celebration situations that he finished it transparent he wanted to take me out to dinner.
‘I was unequivocally resistant primarily given we knew where it was going to lead, yet we eventually usually got won over by costly gifts and extraordinary holidays.
‘I do have my conduct screwed on and we wanted to pursue a career and settle down, yet my conduct got turned.’
Patrick assured Lily to have cooking with him and a intrigue escalated from there (posed by models)
Soon, Lily was being whisked divided on large five-star holidays, from a Bergdorf Goodman selling weekend in New York, to mangle in Tuscany, Paris or a Caribbean.
She said: ‘He knew my dress and shoe distance and my closet and shoe cupboard is all a improved for it.
‘We would go and buy 6 or 8 dresses from Dolce Gabbana, Prada, or wherever it was.
‘He was unequivocally adult on style, so he already had an suspicion in his conduct that he wanted me in a brief cocktail dress or something body-hugging or whatever.
‘It was amazing, given we would go and spend a weekend in New York and we would come divided with these flattering dresses and relating shoes.’
Soon, Lily was being whisked divided on five-star holidays. He would also provide her to costly trinket and engineer garments (picture acted by models)
But a costly oppulance masked a some-more sinister side to Patrick’s personality.
Soon, he was dictating a approach that Lily dressed, how she wore her hair, even a shade of spike polish.
She said: ‘He was unequivocally controlling.
‘There was an expectancy that we was dressed a certain approach and that my hair and nails were finished and that we was good presented.
‘Once, we went to a spike salon during work and we came behind with a French manicure.
‘He pronounced to me, “I told we to get red”.
‘I usually looked during him and thought, this creates no contingency and we don’t know since we’re arguing about a colour of my nails, it was usually a indicate to infer there was control there.’
The heady brew of prolonged hours, large income and bureau danger in a City fundamentally leads to bureau affairs
The control also reached into their sex lives, with Patrick pressurising Lily into contemptible sex games.
She said: ‘The male that we was with was impossibly rarely sexed and there was an try to husband me into participating in swingers’ parties and that arrange of thing.
‘He had a genuine repute among a women in a association for his passionate nature.
‘I wouldn’t be astounded if he had been sleeping with other people from a business while we were together and even prostitutes.’
Lily’s perspective of her partner and a business they worked in usually started to mangle down totally when a financial predicament entirely took hold.
As members of a open struggled to keep their jobs and homes as a outcome of a recession, many City workers were still spending with forward abandon, including Patrick, who suspicion zero of striking thousands of pounds of a company’s income on imagination weekends away.
The costly oppulance masked a some-more sinister side to Patrick’s personality. Much like Christian Grey in Fifty Shades of Grey (pictured), he attempted to require Lily into sex games
She said: ‘You possibly stay and are complicit or we entirely take yourself out of it and we motionless to take myself out of it – both a pursuit and a relationship.’
Putting an finish to a intrigue was easier pronounced than finished yet and Patrick refused to accept their event was over.
Lily eventually had to quit her pursuit and pierce counties, changing phone numbers and emails to shun his consistent messages.
Sex, Lies Banking by Lily Temperley is out now
She said: ‘It valid to be formidable for a good 18 months afterwards.
‘He couldn’t hoop that he wasn’t in control of this conditions – he always had to be in control.’
But after withdrawal a attention and restraint his access, she finally was giveaway dual years after finale it.
She has given motionless to write a book, out now, formed on her experiences.
Lily hopes it will offer as a warning to immature women who are deliberation removing concerned in a attribute with a married man.
But she also wants a story to offer as an anchor for City workers who have started to turn mislaid in a additional and greed.
She said: ‘The book is fundamentally a high flyer’s diary.
‘It unequivocally is an discernment into banking, a fervour and extravagance, yet with names altered so that people can’t be identified.
‘But we wish it will ring some bells for anyone who finds themselves in a same position.’
Sex, Lies Banking by Lily Temperley is out now published by Clink Street Publishing.
BULLYING, MULTI-MILLION POUND BONUSES, TAX-DODGING AND FAKE EXPENSES – LILY’S OTHER TALES OF EXCESS IN THE CITY
Pay packets and tax-dodging:
Lily: ‘I worked in financial and had entrance to a lot of financial data, so we could see what a bank was profitable employees – we’re articulate about people who would win a lottery each year and afterwards some.
‘I would always consternation since these people were entrance behind to work after they’ve usually been given seven-figure bonuses – people were being paid tens of millions in one year alone.
‘There was also a handful of people who got paid in taxation effective schemes to maximize their net take home, they were domiciled in several countries like Cayman Islands or Monaco, where a taxation rates are low or non-existent.
‘So these people were being rewarded for what they brought to a bank yet also what they took home was a infancy of it.’
Lily: ‘They would put business dinners on losses where a food was mostly thrown in for giveaway given they had spent so most income on a alcohol.
‘I saw one box where people finished adult removing trained after spending £40,000 on a singular dish for 6 people.
‘Expenses were used on personal trips away, on things that unequivocally had no purpose for a business, and there was a unequivocally high importance placed on extravagance and glamour.’
The some-more comparison staff took honour in degrading newer recruits, saying how prolonged they took to break.
Lily said: ‘One of a comparison government used to come into a dialect where he would trawl a floor, lifting a ties of opposite organisation to see what code they were wearing.
‘He was carrying a span of scissors and if he didn’t like a code he saw, he would clip a tie off usually underneath a tie knot.
‘Then he would tell them to go emporium in Hermes or somewhere identical and not in Marks and Spencer or Thomas Pink.’
Share or criticism on this article
Share what we think
The comments next have not been moderated.
The views voiced in a essence above are those of a users and do not indispensably simulate a views of MailOnline.
Who is this week’s tip commenter?
Find out now