POV: Fifty Shades of Grey Reflects Continuing Inequality for Women

March 3, 2015 - Fifty Shades of Grey

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There is no denying a recognition of Fifty Shades of Grey. With some-more than 100 million copies of a book sold and some-more than $486 million globally given a film non-stop Feb 15, Fifty Shades has catapulted into a open discourse.

And, therefore, into a area of open health. we have spent years articulate to immature people, college students, propagandize administrators, lady module staff, and relatives about passionate health in this country. So what does it meant that Fifty Shades is now offering bath oil, moving adore rings, lubricant, and blindfolds at Target? Is this a emergence of softened passionate sermon in a United States? If we have mainstream acceptance of bondage, passionate contracts, and a like, are we going to see an altogether alleviation in a passionate health and compensation of Americans? Or does Fifty Shades just simulate a stream state of inequality in a bedroom between group and women? Is it a ultimate betterment of dating abuse, passionate violence, and other murky realities about tellurian (hetero)sexual behavior? Unfortunately, we consider it is some-more of a latter.

The initial thing that struck me while reading Fifty Shades is this: wow, people are unequivocally not teasing about a terrible writing. Just how badly combined is a trilogy? It creates the Twilight series—the start of Fifty Shades, as it was initial combined as fan fiction—look like Pulitzer material. As Salman Rushdie put it in 2012, “I’ve never review anything so badly combined that got published. It finished Twilight look like War and Peace.”

Nor is there most new about Fifty Shades, generally sexually. Is there unequivocally anything irritable or dauntless about a widespread male and a naïve lady with large eyes? It is usually an R-rated chronicle of a Disney movie.

It is impossibly joyless that badly combined erotica behaving out really aged passionate scripts for women and group has turn so popular. People can discuss the meanings, symbolism, and impact, and they have (with interjection to a fanciful sexuality educator Aida Manduley for a link—and don’t skip her hilarious live- tweeting of reading Fifty Shades), though a bottom line is that a trilogy’s recognition is a deeply troublesome discernment into a stream state of passionate health. And frankly, it is not a surprise.

With new generations lifted on abstinence-only, shame-based sexuality “education,” is it any consternation that we now are offering a passionate anticipation that insists on a womanlike impression who is clueless, uninitiated, and in fact has never even masturbated? What did we design a healthy course of abstinence-only would move us? Don’t forget that a origins of abstinence-only programs altered from preventing teen pregnancy—a estimable and evidence-based open health goal—to compelling heterosexual matrimony as a usually supposed form of tellurian passionate behavior, an unscientific, moralistic dissertation that has proven completely ineffective during changing outcomes. But abstinence-only preparation has positively altered a culture. It has brought us some-more passionate shame, some-more fear of a desires—particularly womanlike ones—and reduction believe about a bodies and physiology.

Now we have Christian and Anastasia, a bad child pushing an Audi and a good lady pushing a beat-up VW Beetle (instead of Edward’s Volvo and Bella’s 1950s Chevy lorry in a Twilight series). Christian is bad and knows he is bad, and Anastasia is a verbatim and incongruous virgin, and has to be “taken” in sequence to concede herself any feelings of genuine sexuality. The agree is groundless or nonexistent (“Yes,” “No,” “I don’t know,” “Oh okay, take me”); a relentless materialism sickening (for spanking, we get a NEW CAR!); a sex is, frankly, tedious (she literally yells “argh” during reaching orgasm. Argh. we tend to use “argh” when we stub my toe); and a summary is clear: women who wish sex still need to be “taken,” so they don’t have shortcoming for their feelings, and group wish to browbeat and not be touched. we am sorry, though it is 2015, and that is usually pathetic. And it is also, unfortunately, a healthy end of lifting generations of children but genuine, authentic sexuality education. Our desires and passionate scripts are as shabby by a enlightenment as a appetites, a wardrobe choices, what we listen to, and what we read. Why wouldn’t we design repression, finish miss of self-knowledge, and a tip room full of disobedient things sealed away, to turn renouned and glorified? As Tracy Clark-Flory, sex and relations author for Salon, tweeted: “The Fifty Shades movie could not be some-more clueless about consent, that creates it accurately a sex film that America deserves.”

We all have work to do to urge a passionate health: augmenting communication with a partners; beefing adult a birth control; removing tested and treated for intimately transmitted infections; vocalization adult early and mostly about a vicious significance of active, intent consent; and operative on undoing a contrition and misinformation so many of us schooled or engrossed flourishing adult in a intimately restricted nonetheless sex-sells-everything, misogynist, homophobic culture. There is so most work to be done. Let us not get dreaming by a book or a movie, and instead concentration on formulating a possess genuine and authentic passionate selves. We merit zero less.

Sophie Godley (SPH’15), a School of Public Health clinical partner highbrow of village health sciences, can be reached at sgodley@bu.edu.

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